Adopt a Soldier- Fort Bragg

On a recent show I mentioned the Adopt a Soldier program through Fort Bragg and many of you have requested more information. It's my understanding the primary contact person for the program is Vicky Lee, from Community Relations. Her contact information is vicky.lee@us.army.mil or 910-396-5401. Below is a copy of a letter from Vicky Lee about the program:


Fort Bragg's "Adopt A Soldier" Program gives the civilian community an opportunity to show their support of deployed Soldiers on an individual and personal basis. The "adoption" involves sending letters and care packages for the duration of the Soldier's deployment (usually a year).

The Soldiers who sign up to participate in the program are from units based here at Fort Bragg, North Carolina. Although the majority of the Soldiers participating are younger/lower enlisted; any Soldier interested in receiving support/recognition may participate in the program. We do not maintain any personal information on the Soldiers for this program (i.e. age, race, marital status, etc.).

Most people try to send a letter once a week and a care package once a month. It usually takes at least 7-10 days for a letter to reach them; and 10-14 days for packages. You must fill out a customs form for each care package listing the enclosed items, their weight and their cost.You can call the Expedited Package Supply Center at 1-800-610-8734 and ask for a priority mail "Military Kit." They will send you boxes, envelopes, tape, customs forms...everything you need! There should be"special" boxes in the kit with a red circle that have "Flat Rate Box"on them. You put as much as you possibly can into these boxes and regardless of the weight, the post office will send them for a flat rate of $8.10. Some of them can buy snack food and hygiene items at little stores the Army has set up...but others are in too remote of areas.

Thanks again for wanting to show your support of our heroes,

Vicky

Ministering to Others on Thanksgiving Day

Feel the desire to serve this Thanksgiving? Here are just a couple of places in our area that are looking for volunteers on Thanksgiving Day:


On Thanksgiving Day, the Northside Community Church (of Knightdale) prepares and cooks meals for over 500 area individuals and families. If you would like to help, the meals are prepared at the Family Circus Restaurant, which is located on Wake Forest Road in downtown Raleigh, from 8:00a.m. to 2:00p.m. (Contact them at 919-261-8929.)


The Durham Rescue Mission, located on Main St. in Durham, also provides opportunities for volunteers. On Thanksgiving Day, the Mission hosts their Annual Thanksgiving Community Dinner. In addition to serving a free Thanksgiving meal, the Mission gives away free groceries and clothing, including winter coats. Volunteers are needed for a number of activities, including site set-up, meal preparation and clean-up, and the distribution of clothing and groceries. Staff is also needed to operate game booths for the children that will be in attendance. Donations of food and clothing are also welcomed. (Contact them at 919-688-9641.)

Recipe Swap- Best Thanksgiving Side Dishes

The best recipes tend to be "a pinch of this and a dash of that." My personal favorite among the Thanksgiving recipes happens to be on a cherished water-stained yellow Post-it note of chicken scrawls I wrote while on the phone with my mom 13 years ago on my first married Thanksgiving. My mother's sweet potatoes (yams) are all the rage in our family and once my husband tried them, he made sure I called Mom on Thanksgiving to get the recipe. This year I'm in charge of sweet potatoes at the preschool Thanksgiving dinner and will bring them along to Andrew's Aunt Donna's gathering in Virginia Thanksgiving Day. What about you... what's that dish that you love to make and others can't seem to get enough of? Post your favorite Thanksgiving Side Dish so we can all have a tastier Thanksgiving!

Bette Ann's (Brittney's Mom) Famous Sweet Potatoes


*Melt in a saucepan a 1/2 Stick of Margarine
*Add 1/3 C. Orange Juice and 3/4 C. Brown Sugar

(Cook above ingredients until melted together and slight boil)

*In a small bowl combine 2 1/2 Tablespoons of Cornstarch and water until smooth. Add this mixture to the other ingredients in the saucepan to thicken sauce.

*Drain one large can of sweet potatoes (or yams) and put in casserole dish. Cover the sweet potatoes with sauce and cook at 350 degrees until bubbly (approximately 20 minutes.) Enjoy!!

Triangle Restaurants Open on Thanksgiving

One of the funniest and most heart-breaking scenes in holiday movies has to be in Tim Allen's Santa Clause (the original) when Dad burns the turkey, blasts it with the fire extinguisher, and ends up eating at Denny's... where they are all out of egg nog! Thanksgiving and Christmas meals are an intrinsic part of the celebration, so if you are looking to secure just the right resaurant (that does have egg nog, pumpkin pie, and all the other necessities) here is a blog I found that lists the restaurants in the Triangle that will be open on Thanksgiving Day.

http://blogs.newsobserver.com/food/restaurants-open-thanksgiving-day

Enjoy!

Helping Charities When Money is Tight

There are charities on every corner (sometimes literally!) during the holiday season. We want to give to them all, but when finances are tight, what can we do? Why not do what you are already doing... just maybe a little better! Organizations like the Raleigh Rescue Mission are able to help you plan your holiday travel and you can give to your favorite charity every time you shop at the supermarket! Check out this great link for 11 more ideas like these. Plus, don't forget the His Radio Blanket Bundles event (canned food and blanket drive) on Saturday, November 14th!

http://http://www.newsobserver.com/business/local_state/story/155733.html

And the Winners Are...

... The Deep Fried Snickers AND the Deep Fried HoHo! (I can't believe I ate the whole thing.) I thoroughly enjoyed eating the foods that you selected for me to eat at the State Fair. The Deep Fried Snickers and Deep Fried Ho Ho ended up tying as the foods you wanted me to try at the fair, so between the four members of my family we HAPPILY polished them off.

My personal favorite was the Snickers with yummy, melt-y, carmel-y, chocolate, plus the texture the peanuts provided. The HoHo had a nice cake-y structure surrounded by the deep fried batter, however the white filling was MIA. It appeared to have been baked out (or baked in.)

Thanks for your votes and thanks for the fun!

Deep Fried Suggestions- Vote for State Fair Food I Should Eat

If it can be skewered and fried, you'll find it for sale at the North Carolina State Fair. The latest delight on a stick: the deep fried HoHo (to go with its close cousin the deep fried Twinkie.) From deep fried candy bars to deep fried macaroni and cheese there is something for everyone.

I tend to be the funnel cake type, but I'd like to branch out and try something new. I will try the State Fair food that receives the most votes (comments) here prior to Friday's Jeremy Camp concert. (I'll even be sure to get a pic of me eating "His Radio's Best Loved [Fried] State Fair Food.")

Have you been to the State Fair this year? Tell me what fried food you'd recommend.

Confessions of a "No guy"

Earlier today I received an urgent email from an organization whose goal is to unite one million people who will at a moment's notice fight to defend the traditional definition of marriage. I often send my appropriate emails to the right congressmen and hope and pray they make a difference. I receive probably three or four of these types of emails a week from this organization and others desiring my action. Protect babies, defend marriage, stand for strong families. Worthy causes that deserve my time and my money.

I go through times, probably like you, when I am battle weary. I am weary because for as long as I can remember I have fought (losing) battles. Growing up listening to programs which encouraged my parents to "write their congressmen" and "call the White House switchboard" I learned the importance of being an active citizen and defending what is Biblically right with the freedom offered voters in our country.

I'm the "No guy." Saying "no" to everything from "pro-choice" to "sexual freedom" and this language makes me feel like the bad guy in this battle of verbiage. "Defending the faith" is a statement we commonly use, but perhaps the reason we lose so often in the marketplace is because we are on the defense and not on the offense.

It's widely known that Christians in music, books, and media are primarily imitators. We see something that works in the secular world and we simply shift the marketing to suit the Christian public. We are often six months too late and unoriginal. (If you need an example just look at knock offs like the "Sunday School Musical" DVD or "Conservapedia" which is claims to be more Christian-friendly than Wikipedia.) How would the world be different today if a Christian had originated either "High School Musical" or Wikipedia?

Not to downplay the validity of the putting out moral fires as they come, but what if we anticipated fires in advance and assembled an army when there is a moral consensus? Child pornography is a battle Americans who care about children have a general agreement about- it is horribly wrong. Why not mobilize on this issue NOW instead of in 10 years? This is a war where we can win by being on the OFFENSIVE. This beats putting out last minute fires, winning a few battles and losing the war.

So how about becoming Christian innovators and changing the face of technology? How about fighting a winning battle together and celebrating the chance to be "Yes Men!"

The Power of Tears

Back in the day... I mean WAY back in the day, when Jesus walked the Earth, young people just starting out didn't flip signs behind their backs along the roadside (or flip burgers for that matter.) No, an entrepreneurial-type might go into the "crying" business. Since there were always people passing away (and not enough true friends with real tears) they'd send in actors who could work up tears at a moment's notice.

Even today professional mourners call up funeral directors and offer their services, for a price. I understand one professional mourner who garnered a large sum ($50,000!) actually tore out chunks of her hair as she mourned during Marilyn Monroe's funeral.

I know for me when I am at a funeral I find it so refreshing to be with someone who is moved to tears. It is both contagious and freeing. One person's expression seems to give the group permission to let down their guard emotionally.

"Jesus wept." John 11:35

The shortest verse in the Bible struck me in a new way this week. Those two little words tell us that Jesus was willing to be vulnerable, and for a moment "feel" instead of "fix." His friend Lazarus (who he would later raise from the dead!) had just passed away and his emotions welled up. He felt sorry for the crowd and Lazarus's sisters Mary and Martha. He did what the book of Romans calls, "mourning with those who mourn."

A few friends who get probably the worst rap in the Bible are Job's friends who provide him nearly 40 chapters of bad advice. (Not much different than mid-afternoon TV!) Anyway, in Job's friends' defense, when Eliphaz, Bildad, and Zophar heard that Job had lost his possessions, his children, and was physically sick they "met together by agreement to go and sympathize with him and comfort him. (Job 2:11) The three men wept alound and sat with Job in silence and tears for seven days. Seven days! (How many women could be quiet for seven days?!) These are rare friends!

In our crazy lives it is easy for us each to become too busy to take on each other's pain. The impending divorce... The lost job... The wayward teen... But as Jesus showed us, being a true friend means being willing to shed real tears because of love for the hurting.

When I think about my own funeral someday I don't want plastic, paid-off mourners but true friends who are both thankful for my home-going and heart-sick. Emotion at the end of life begins with emotional investment in others now.

$20 House?

Nearly 4,000 square feet for $20? It sounds too good to be true, but one former North Carolina family is raffling off their dream home because trying to sell it has proven ineffective. After building their home in 2001 the Peterson family took a job in Montana and the real estate market collapsed. They are now selling raffle tickets, with $19 going toward the Grizzly Wolf Discovery Center in Montana. Read more about it (and check out pictures of the house) at
http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/6009013/

"The Flood" Remembered

If you lived in North Carolina 10 years ago, most likely you don't even like to hear the name "Floyd." "Floyd" is more than just the name of somebody's uncle, it conjures up memories you'd rather forget. When our family moved to North Carolina about three years ago we heard plenty of stories from Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary (Wake Forest) students (and their families) who had to move in with off-campus families because they had no electricity.

Flooded homes and flooded cars...even lost lives. According to www.noaa.gov, "Damages are estimated to be $1.6 billion in Pitt County, North Carolina alone, and total storm damages have surpassed the $6 billion caused by Hurricane Fran in 1996."

But even as Hurricane Floyd brought devastating loss, it also brought North Carolinians together. Looking back at your own experience during Hurricane Floyd, how did someone go above and beyond to reach out to you? I'd love to hear your story!

The New Black... "Layaway" (Or at least a way to stay in the black!)

Have you ever used a store layaway plan? I remember seeing my mom do it several times when I was growing up and I personally put a pair of pin-striped, "ultra-cool" shorts on layaway once when I was in high school. Honestly, I haven't used a layaway plan since that time, but I am considering it.

The basic idea with "layaway" is simply making payments for something, interest free before you actually receive the item… the opposite of a credit card. The idea of delayed gratification that we try to teach our kids is coming back around to us. The layaway plan has had a revival of sorts because credit and cash are both hard to come by. A few stores which have a layaway plan are Kmart, TJMaxx, Marshalls, and Burlington Coat Factory. (Wal-Mart execs are most likely kicking themselves for doing away with their layaway plan a couple of years ago.)

Tracy from Rocky Mount used layaway this past Christmas and she said she also used it to buy school supplies this year.

Do you think you’ll use layaway this Christmas?

Did Jesus Die for Little Green Men?

So did Jesus come to die for aliens as well as Earth dwellers? Here is a link to an interesting scholarly article which discusses the possibility of life elsewhere in the universe, and what that would mean for Christianity. Would Jesus have to die multiple times for multiple planets or have we missed the boat by not advancing civilization to the point we can send missionaries to all other planets? When would the Great Commission really be accomplished if Earth isn't all there is? Interesting thoughts to ponder...

http://www.christianpost.com/article/20090827/did-jesus-die-for-little-green-men/index.html

So What's on Your Reading List?

President Barack Obama released his summer vacation reading list, which includes the following:

*The Way Home, a crime thriller based in Washington, D.C.;*Lush Life, a story of race and class set in New York's Lower East Side;*Tom Friedman's Hot, Flat and Crowded, on the benefits to America of an environmental revolution;*John Adams, and *Plainsong a drama about the life of eight different characters living in a Colorado prairie community.

Some have said President Obama's list is rather boring compared to George W. Bush's lists and not as ambitious as Bill Clinton's lists of a dozen books or more. My own reading list has been fairly short:

*It Takes So Little to Be Above Average, by Florence Littauer

Description: Nobody wants to be average, ordinary, run-of-the-mill. We'd rather be unique, inspiring, above average! Why continue to trudge down the middle lane of life when there's so much more to experience? Florence Littauer shares her formula for a rich life.


*For the Write Reason: 31 Writers, Agents and Editors Share Their Experiences with Christian Publishing, by Marybeth Whalen

Description: Drawing on the wisdom of experienced writers, agents and editors, this book offers writers of all levels a valuable source of encouragement and wisdom. By combining personal stories with an in-depth Bible study, you can delve into God's calling to write in your own life.

(My summer reading list would be much longer if I were to include all the dozens of children's books I read per week. How many kids books does it take to equal a REAL book, anyway?!)


On a regular basis you'll find me reading the following websites:

www.christianpost.com
www.cnn.com
www.foxnews.com
www.CNSNews.com
www.newreleasetuesday.com
www.actsnetwork.com
(and many local news sources)

So what have you had the chance to read this summer? What websites do you frequent and what do they say about you? I'd love to know!

The Shocking Truth of #25

#25 "[Certain items used for birth control] have always been advertised on television."

"The list" is out and reading it this year I don't feel necessarily "old", but I do feel a strong sense of being an alien on my own planet! Every year since 1998 Beloit College in Beloit, WI has put together a list of telling facts about the lives and experiences of incoming college freshmen. Their site receives over 300,000 hits a year, so it's definitely worth the read at http://www.beloit.edu/mindset/.

Did you know, for example:

Most have never seen a TV set with only 13 channels, nor have they seen a black & white TV.

They have always had cable.

There have always been VCRs, but they have no idea what Beta is.

They cannot fathom what it was like not having a remote control.

They were born the year Walkmen were introduced by Sony.

"The Tonight Show" has always been with Jay Leno.

But there was something about that #25 (about the birth control mehod advertisements) that hit me very strangely. Finally realized why... I HAVE MISSED A COLLEGE FRESHMAN'S LIFETIME WORTH OF TV! I have never seen ONE of those commercials in my life. Have I really lived in that much of a cave? (Not that that's necessarily a bad thing, I guess.)

As I entered college in 1992 (okay that dates me!) I didn't have a TV in my dorm room. When Andy and I got married right out of college we decided TV was "too addictive" so we opted to not purchase one. A few years later we bought a DVD player for our computer to watch movies. We have borrowed TVs to watch specials, Christmas movies, the Olympics, for family get-togethers, but it has not been a normal part of our lives. (By the way, I do follow "American Idol", just online instead.) We keep up on culture, movies, politics, and news through the internet, newspapers, and obviously- RADIO! (I do have to add that when I do watch TV and see how old some of the actors, actresses, and news anchors look, it shocks me because some of them I haven't see in over 15 years!)

I honestly appreciate not having a TV because it forces us to find creative activities to do together as a family, and with all the craziness associated with our work and school schedules there really isn't much time to watch anything anyway. There are only 1-2% of Americans who do not have a TV in their homes. The Beloit list gave me a look at what I am "missing", although I am thankful to have my memories of a more wholesome world- even if I am living in a time warp!

Is there anything else you think I might have "missed" by not having a television? I'd love to know your thoughts (and your help in filling in my cultural gaps!)

How to Make Money Without Money

Many out-of-work people are looking for ways to get career counseling and opportunities to "schmooze" with people in their industry... but with no income how can you afford the pay-by-the-hour counselor and the networking steak dinner? Some creatives ideas came out in an article at ThirdAge.com (http://www.thirdage.com/budgeting-bargains/7-ways-to-save-cash-on-a-job-hunt) that make networking and brushing up career skills more affordable.

1. Barter for job assistance. If you have a skill you can offer to a career coach (secretarial skills, administrative skills) see if you can strike a deal.

2. Volunteer. If there is a networking event/conference you think would be important for you to attend, see if you may be able to be a volunteer at the event. You could either receive reduced or free admission.

Also, check with local churches about available networking opportunites. For example, Open Door Baptist Church (N. Raleigh) has a Bible Study/Mentoring/Networking group that has been recently organized to fill this very need for unemployed men. Church Phone Number: (919) 847-6969.

There are many community and state resources dedicated to job placement and career betterment. Here is a link to the North Carolina Career Resource Network. http://www.soicc.state.nc.us/soicc/. This site includes a career interest assessment that you can do right from your computer.

Praying for Mercy Me and Josh Hamilton

News came out this weekend about Mercy Me being involved in a tour bus accident that led to the deaths of two adults and an unborn baby. Also this weekend Christian Josh Hamilton, local guy-turned-pro-baseball player for the Texas Rangers, was discovered intoxicated in some questionable photos. Please join me in prayer for these men who are going through some very difficult situations.

For more about Mercy Me: http://actsnetwork.com/?p=528

For more about Josh Hamilton: http://www.startribune.com/sports/twins/52794237.html?elr=KArksLckD8EQDUoaEyqyP4O:DW3ckUiD3aPc:_Yyc:aUnciatkEP7DhUsl

A Late Bloomer...

I received two flowers on Mother's Day, one beautiful blooming pansy from church and a mystery plant in a Styrofoam cup from my four-year-old, Micah. I had a very large flower pot, so I decided to place the two together in the pot on the back deck. Micah's plant had a marked disadvantage. He had grown it from seed at preschool and it had a bite on one of its leaves from an earwig that had made its home inside the Styrofoam cup.

As time went on the fuchsia pansy continued to bloom generously, while Micah's plant simply grew straight up... and UP! I was convinced that since Micah had planted it from seed, perhaps the bug had really eaten the flower and I was left with one mighty tall weed!

God gives us so many surprises in life. Oftentimes those annoyances in my day, such as a red light at just the wrong time, provide the best opportunities for my character to be shaped. On a larger scale, a side trip in our family's life plan for "ministry" has created more opportunities to "do ministry" along the way. When I am waiting on God I get impatient because I want God to do something logical. Instead God wants me to wait. I can often mistake what God is working on for a weed (a sidetracking inconvenience.)

As you can see, this week God finally bloomed that "weed" as it appeared to me since Mother's Day. Sometimes it takes patience to see the amazing plans God has for us! (Jeremiah 29:11)

Making Do... and White Shoes

I'm getting ready to attend a conference over the weekend and I need to wear my white high heels. Now normally this wouldn't be a problem, but I just happened to notice that my shoes look like I walked on them sideways down a gravel road! The scuffs and "chunks" look just terrible. Now the old me would go out and buy new shoes. The old and new me are complaining, but I'm going to keep my shoes, wear them this weekend, and wait for a "good month" to buy new shoes. I am going to be wearing nearly floor length pants and a little bit of elbow grease and "White Out" might just do the trick....

It got me to thinking that there are lots of things during this recession that people have done without. A new poll from Slate.com http://www.slate.com/id/2223471/?gt1=38001 indicates that many of us are giving up trips and going out to eat, but some of us are even delaying a family or are unable to spend time with family because they've taken a second job. What sacrifice have you made during this recession. I'd love to know!

5 Painless Ways to Save Money

I love this picture... maybe it's because I grew up with the saying "A penny saved is a penny earned" or maybe it's because I find myself looking down in the parking lot along with my kids trying to find lost pennies (or quarters or dollar coins!!) Anyway, if we can stretch our money in a way that's "doable" I am all for it.! Here are a few painless ways to save money that we discussed on the show:

1. Experiment with what you really "need." Do you really need two cans of tomatoes in the recipe if one would work? Do you really have to go all the way over the end of the brush with the toothpaste? Would a 6 minute shower be just as refreshing as a 7 minute shower? Find what you're willing to give on and see the savings add up!

2. Swap garden veggies with a friend, and save on produce at the store.

3. Find new recipes that include the use of dried beans. They are plentiful, inexpensive and full of protein. Check out www.allrecipes.com or www.recipezaar.com.

4. Buy presents for children that are add-ons to what they already have- such as doll clothing instead of a whole new doll. Train cars and tracks can be added to train sets.

5. Buy extra school supplies now! These can be used as end-of-school gifts for the teacher, for school auctions, or for your child later in the year.

Check out more ideas like these in the book, The Tightwad Gazette by Amy Dacyczyn (pronounced "Decision") I wish she were still writing, because this book from the 90s is sooo timely!

Making a Difference from Your Computer!

As the world becomes smaller, it appears as though Internet evangelism may be the most effective (and cheapest) place to do evangelism. For those who desire to search out issues of faith without the discomfort of visiting a new church, Campus Crusade for Christ has an effective global online ministry solely dedicated to leading people to Christ. Could there be a more meaningful volunteer opportunity?

During the month of June CCC's Global Media Outreach recorded over 1 million decisions for Christ (including faith re-dedications.) One million in one month! As you can guess, "the harvest is plentiful but the workers are few." If you would like to volunteer with Campus Crusade for Christ as an online missionary, find out more information through this link: http://http//www.christianpost.com/article/20090716/ccc-media-ministry-records-over-1m-decisions-for-christ-in-1-month/index.html

Consignment Sales and Swaps!

Here's the link I promised about upcoming consignment sales (finishing out July-October.) I was especially excited about the sale that doesn't require cash (Barter4Kids.) It seems as though bartering would be a great choice for families without a paycheck or any of us who enjoy creative ways to stretch the budget. http://http//www.trianglemom2mom.com/content/2009-fall-consignment-sale-season

I once received a great tip about back to school shopping- buy kids only one new outfit a piece before school starts. This outfit can be off the summer clearance rack because IT IS SUMMER. After school starts (October-ish) the fall clothing often goes down in price and that is a good time to pick up any other cool weather items and essentials for a child's wardrobe.

Image courtesy of www.discoverportlandshopping.com

There is Always Someone Hurting Worse...

I was on the phone with my friend Angela when she received a call on the other line. It was her homeless friend. Angela has been ministering to a young woman who has a baby and has been living on the streets, struggling with substance abuse for 15 years. Angela's plate is full with a large family and a husband who is looking for employment. Still she finds time to help others less fortunate than herself.

Someone without a paycheck helping someone without a home... The scenario struck me as ironic and so Jesus-like. Instead of sitting around a moping about her situation Angela is ministering.

Then there's Andrea Bigelow... You may have heard about her in the news. She's a former claims adjuster who lost her job and now she's widely known as one of the best cake and dessert bakers in the Durham area. She told NBC17, "We're still eating, we still have a roof over our head, we're still able to send our son to private school," she said. "Prayer works."

I know for me when life doesn't go the way I expected it to- even the way I thought God had promised or led- it's easy to become bitter and self-absorbed. People like Angela and Andrea inspire me because they are turning their difficult circumstances into something God is using for good.

A New Perspective on Life

This weekend I had the chance to talk with two wonderful ladies at a local nursing home.

As I saw Beth coming into the activity room I could tell she was quite a bit younger than most of the residents there. It turns out Beth had a stroke at the young age of 42. She went from the hospital to a nursing home for recovery. Her husband told her that since she wasn't there to take care of the cats, he was going to put them in an animal shelter. In order to save her cats from that fate, she chose to leave the nursing home- before she was really ready. Eventually her husband left her and she is now living back at a nursing home trying to recover so she can live independantly. Beth said that prior to her stroke she really didn't think much about God having a purpose for her life, but now she knows that God has preserved her life for a reason.

Then there's Esie. Esie was in an accident and is now wheelchair bound. Her daughter took care of her for some time until Esie told her to go on with her life and put her in the nursing home. Esie said, "I really like it here and I know God has me here for a purpose."

Both of these women would never have chosen to live in a nursing home before their time. Yet both of them have a wonderful perspective, God still has a plan for me. It was such a blessing to talk with them and be reminded that God has a plan for me, in my life today. If you are still here- God has a plan for You!

Forced Contentment

Okay, call it financial backsliding... we've hit the wall! After doing very well on Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University plan for over a year this has been one bad month. We've had not a few "not right now" and "no" conversations with the kids about things we would have said "yes" to a couple of months ago. So now we're learning, or re-learning what contentment means. This time it's "forced contentment" because we don't want to be here and we really do want to buy new stuff and go out to eat!

It all started with a couple of incredibly good online deals. We had money budgeted for the blow-up swimming pool (but not for the chemicals that go with it.) We also found a whiz bang deal on a flight to see grandma. But then the new-to-us car needed tires and headlights... Next thing you know it's back on the credit card.

I wish I were the Apostle Paul and could say with all sincerity that "I have learned to be content in whatever situation I am in" but to be honest I can only say, "I have learned..." I have learned that things you buy nearly always entail extra expenses. Even a child's toy that requires batteries has extra baggage. I have learned that money goes into envelopes for a reason. It's to show me that my money for going out to eat and school clothes does come from some concrete place in the budget. I have also learned that contentment is a discipline. And it's a discipline the Lord is not done teaching me. I want to be a better student so I can pass this lesson onto my kids well.

Camping for Non-Campers this Saturday!

Ready for the "Great American Backyard Campout?" It's a nationally sponsored cool, free/inexpensive staycation. If you're thinking, "What do I do for hours in my yard with the kids?" http://www.backyardcampout.org/ has lots of creative suggestions. Information below is from their press release:

High gas prices keeping you at home? You’re not alone. This spring America witnessed the steepest decline in driving since 1942. Instead of packing up and hitting the road, here’s an idea for family fun, no further than your backdoor. The National Wildlife Federation encourages parents and kids alike to trade their website for a campsite, turning off computers, TVs, iPods, Wiis, MP3 players, cell phones and all things high tech, to experience a night with Mother Nature, listen for nocturnal wildlife (maybe even see a few), star-gaze, cook outdoors, tell stories about Bigfoot and the Loch Ness Monster, and explore a whole other world right in their own backyard.

Last year tens of thousands of people from around the country participated in the Great American Backyard Campout, www.backyardcampout.org. You don’t need to go to Yosemite National Park to experience the great outdoors and the wonders it has to offer. Just open up your backdoor!

Where: Backyards across America

When: Saturday night, June 27, 2009

Why: This initiative is part of a National Wildlife Federation campaign to rescue our nation’s kids from what famed author Richard Louv calls “nature deficit disorder.” Research now shows that kids spend an average of 44 hours per week staring at electronic screens, TV, video games and computers -- for the first time in our country’s history; we have an entire generation that is growing up disconnected from nature.

Getting Started:
The National Wildlife Federation is providing everything you need to head out into the great outdoors called your backyard. The web site has packing lists, recipes, nocturnal wildlife guides, exploration activities, nature guides. Check it out at www.backyardcampout.org.

Experiencing the "Free Movie" w/ Kids

A number of local theaters are hosting free family movies on Tuesdays and Wednesdays throughout the summer. Regal Theatres are hosting their "Free Family Film Festival" while

Marquee Cinemas are having the Kids' Summer Movie Series (which starts this week.)

Last Wednesday my three-year-old, Micah, and I went to the Regal Theatre at North Hills to see "Horton Hears a Who." We arrived about 15 minutes early and followed the crowd of other moms with (mostly) preschoolers in tow into the theatre. The line for refreshments was tremendous, but we were able to slip through and find our way straight into the movie with no problem. We saw a sprinkling of all ages (even a group of teenagers in the front row.) The theatre was approximately 90 percent full, which was less packed than I had expected. We were not uncomfortably smooshed, and thankfully Micah did not have to go to the bathroom! The movie was enjoyable, but as you can expect it was a loud crowd. Not necessarily the kind of loud that comes from an appreciative crowd that laughs at the right times... it was more of a "Outside Voiced Toddler vs. The Movie" kind of noise. The crowd noise wasn't overbearing, but noticeable.

After I visited the Regal Theatre in North Hills a friend told me about the Wakefield Marquee's free movies. Because of the driving hassle and cost of gas, for me, I probably would not have gone again to North Hills. Now knowing there is another theater close-by I'm looking forward to taking both of my kids when my daughter is tracked-out.

If you're planning to go this week, Regal's movies are at 10:00 a.m. and Marquee's are at 9:30 a.m. on Tuesdays and Wednesdays. Follow this link for more information on other free or inexpensive movies for families in our area:

http://http://www.newsobserver.com/midtownraleighnews/story/1539034.html

Local Father's Day Activities

Does Dad love the outdoors and getting dirty? Perhaps it the sound of motors or cracking of a bat that gets his blood pumping... Whatever your dad enjoys there are activities (many of them free for dads) happening this weekend. From Marbles Museum to the Durham Bulls, check out the list of activities through "Out and About":

http://www.wral.com/entertainment/out_and_about/page/4853892/?keywords=father%27s+day+&location=&categories=&date=&page_number=1&x=0&y=0

From all of us at His Radio, Happy Father's Day!

Heaven-American Citizen

Imagine you were born in America, but lived your life in another country. You'd hear stories about great Americans, perhaps watch the Olympics and root for the U.S. with pride, follow the movers and shakers of American politics and culture- all without ever having a memory of stepping on American soil. You're heart is American and the paper says you're American- that's what matters.

The same is true of our Heavenly Citizenship. We read about the "streets of gold" and gates made out of a single pearl- stuff that sounds amazing and crazy to us... yet that is home! If our names have been written in the Lamb's Book of Life we are (present tense) citizens of Heaven who are simply awaiting our final destination.

The [Christian] Flavor of the Week

Every square inch... The only part of my too cool room that was not covered with posters was my ceiling. New Kids on the Block, or NKOTB as they were known, was my band. My "fav guy"- Jonathan Knight. It seems crazy to me now the obsession I had with a band during my teen years. They were just a few clean guys who could harmonize with a great marketing machine.

As a mom (and as someone in Christian radio) I now find myself in the position of following news stories about celebrities who claim faith in Jesus Christ. I get excited when I hear about role models my daughter can look up to... to a point.

A few months prior to the Miley Cyrus photo scandals I remember having a conversation with a couple of friends about my daughter going to Miley's movie with a friend, a too-short skirt Miley wore on a TV, and Miley's claim of faith in Jesus Christ. As the conversation turned a corner I said I felt compelled to warn my daughter, Lindsey, that even though Miley says she is a Christian she may make some bad choices in her life.. "so don't get all wrapped up in her!" My friends told me I shouldn't bring it up until "something" actually happened in Miley's life to indicate a concern. Well let's just say- it didn't take long.

A few weeks ago the hot-Christian-of-the-moment was Carrie Prejean the now former Miss California. Her story has been a see-saw I'm glad I decided not to even bring up with my daughter. She's a pro-marriage advocate, but her modeling choices have indicated otherwise. Talk about a walking a tightrope. If teen girls are/were excited about Carrie's bold choice of standing up for traditional marriage they had to walk across an internet minefield of photos to read her story. That's just messy.

American Idol has been an exciting place to look for Christians in the spotlight with Kris Allen and Danny Gokey both shining as great singers and followers of Jesus. Kris's win gave me hope again that sometimes "the good guys" still win in America.

A little good... A little bad... A little disappointment... A little hope... Each of these stars are role models, but we as parents do have some power as to whether they become "idols" in our kids lives. (I'm still trying to figure out when a few posters turn into a shrine?!) We know that Jesus should be our kids' ultimate role model, but it sure is nice to have someone to look up to "with skin on."

Finally, as much as I hate to say it, female stars have a particulary lousy track record. How many stars are there who started out with squeaky clean Disney movies only to shed that image the moment they turned (barely) legal age? Britney Spears, Jessica Simpson and Miley Cyrus have all claimed faith in Jesus but have each disappointed as role models for pre-teen/teen girls. What the world needs now is more females in the spotlight who make a claim of faith and live in purity. Until then buy a Kris Allen poster- he's the "Christian Flavor of the Week."

The Bargain Hunter's Secret Weapon- "The Price Book"

Like you, I surf the web, clip coupons and search for good deals to stretch the family budget. One thing I have not found the discipline to do is create a "Price Book" so many ladies swear by. The idea of the "Price Book" is keeping a log of the price of items your family uses at all the local stores. By keeping a log you have a record of what prices are available at various stores and actually know a good deal when you see it. Stores obviously change their prices from week to week, so keeping a long-term record will help you discover an average price for the item and learn the sales cycles of each store. Love the idea- just not the spreadsheets that go with it.

Now there is a place for people who love a deal to look over the shoulder of those who've already done the work. If you live in the Triangle, there is a composite Triangle Price Book that is being created that we can all read and contribute to online at:

http://www.newsobserver.com/business/pricebook/

Remembering the 65th Anniversary of D-Day

Saturday marks the 65th anniversary of D-Day. The National D-Day Memorial is in Bedford, VA- about 20 minutes west of Lynchburg, VA (or 3hours north of Durham.) The Memorial was built in Bedford because it suffered among the nation's highest per-capita losses on D-Day. Unfortunately, because of its out-of-the-way location and struggling economy, the memorial is on the brink of financial ruin. If you've thought about going to the Memorial (or are perhaps thinking, "Wow, I didn't even know we had one of those!") Now would be a great time to go before it's gone!

I think there is truth to the notion that people don't remember D-Day or the sacrifices of our World War II veterans as much as they did a few years ago. Many World War II veterans who had helped fund the Memorial have passed away. That seems like all the more reason to take our kids to the Memorial or talk to our children about D-Day, so the memory of their grea-grandparents stays alive.

The National D-Day Memorial will have special concerts, speakers, and appearances by WWII veterans on D-Day this Saturday. The facility itself is an outdoor museum that tells the story of the Normandy invasion in sculptures of soldiers and their leaders. Air jets shoot mini-geysers of water to mimic enemy gunfire as bronze figures of soldiers struggle for shore in a reflecting pool. Some 10,000 Allied troops were killed or wounded in the costly landing.

For more information on the National D-Day Memorial or this weekend's activities go to: http://www.dday.org/. (Photo courtesy of www.dday.org.)

So, What's on Your Bus?

This week the Indiana Atheist Bus Campaign put this statement on 25 Chicago buses, "In the beginning, man created God."

According to the Campaign, the slogan "espouses the idea that man created God as well as all religions, and encourages public and critical examination of the merits of religious belief." Members and supporters of this group say they hope that atheists will feel freer to "come out" because of having their belief system validated through this bus campaign.

What if Christians in North Carolina rallied to put one Christian message on Raleigh buses... What if we could put our denominations, social programs and politics aside to fund such a venture...

The "God Speaks" billboard campaign was very effective, but it was not funded by a group. Are we willing to be proactive in putting messages on our buses with our own money? By the way, if you know of someone who's considering starting a Christian organization with that purpose please let me know and I'll be sure to pass it along.

So what kind of slogan would be quick, to the point and effective?

*I Still Believe... in God
*It's Just a God-Thing
*Don't know God? Don't worry- He knows You!
*Creation speaks for itself... I AM GOD
*There is a God- He hears His name quite often in this traffic...

Please add your own... My Christian bus slogan is __________________.

Rotten Food, Rotten Faith

Even the toffee-like candy coating couldn’t cover the bitter flavor. Those special Praline Pecans in the Christmas Cranberry tin… A year ago we’d gone on vacation to Florida and tried these wonderful tourist-y pecans. We found out the brand name, then purchased a couple of tins through an online super sale… the Christmas leftovers. So these highly prized clearance pecans did time in our freezer for a few months, and we nibbled on a couple dozen nuts while they sat in their special tucked away spot. Rotten nuts never eaten… just waiting for that “special occasion.”

I couldn’t help but think (while I pondered whether or not to throw away the nuts) how that Christmas Cranberry container is similar to my faith. Those tracts that sit on my dresser just waiting for the “right occasion” to share my faith... Those days I’ve avoided a friend who needs Jesus because I’m afraid she’ll try to convert me to her belief system... I feel challenged somehow. What am I waiting for? My faith is sitting up there rotting on the freezer while people need to hear the hope of Christ!

What about you? What is God teaching you today? I'd love to hear your story. Feel free to share it below.

Summer Fun- On a Budget!

With Memorial Day being the unofficial start of summer, I thought it would be fun to explore some of the cheap/free options we have right here in North Carolina for kid-friendly activities.

1. Full-time summer camps can be expensive. As an alternative, local churches such as Open Door Baptist Church (www.opendoorlife.com) have day camps that can be quite inexpensive. This church has "Power Camp" where students can choose either an "arts" or "sports" track- only $20 for the week (It was $10 during early registration!!) Another idea- town parks and recreation sports activities.

2. Summer concerts provide inexpensive or free music. Many communities such as Holly Springs have free outdoor concerts on the weekends. The free outdoor concert series starts tomorrow evening and goes through September. For more details, go to http://www.hollyspringsnc.us/news/2009/outdoor.html

Christian festivals are a great way to get the most music for your money. For example, Sonfest at Carowinds costs nearly the same amount as a good seat at the concert of a single artist. This year tobyMac, Brandon Heath and Third Day will showcase their talent at Sonfest. Read more about Sonfest, June 13th through our homepage www.hisradiowrtp.com.

3. Water! Whether its the fountain at Triangle Town Center or Falls Lake, there are plenty of places to enjoy free water fun. There are plenty of city parks that have pools- like Seabrook Pool in Fayetteville. It's worth checking on a season's pass if you plan to go often. Another alternative- buy your own round ring blow-up pool. It may be cheaper in the long run and will attractive the neighbors!

4. Take me out to the cheap ballgame! With the Mudcats and Durham Bulls, we are blessed with inexpensive ways to celebrate the American Pastime. Even cheaper- high school and little league games (and the little leaguers are the cutest to watch anyway!)

5. Take a picnic lunch to an unusual place. Need inspiration? Check out the book 100 Classic Hikes in North Carolina by Joe Miller. Our family just fell in love with the Franklin County Nature Preserve's Children's Bamboo Trail. There is a perfectly located picnic bench in the shade just waiting for a picnic under the bamboo!

Enjoy your Memorial Day weekend and let me know your own inexpensive Summer Fun ideas!!

Recession Purchases.. How about Spam?

So what are you buying these days? We may be buying down or simply doing without in some areas, but there are some comforts such as chocolate that we seem to be clinging to during this recession. Other hot items: Spam, running shoes, gold coins and tanning products. (I guess it's because that trip to the beach may be out of our price range this year...) Read more about other items we're spending money on at http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/30781701/

The Famous One

I think famous people are really cool. Whenever I meet a "star" I try to act grown-up and "unimpressed" to suppress my excitement- but inside I’m all “oogly” (I’m not even sure that’s a word.) Anyway… I had the opportunity about five years ago to go to the big conference in Nashville that happens in conjunction with the GMA Dove Awards. Throughout the week it’s not uncommon to meet up with tobyMac in the hallway or Chris Tomlin in the elevator.

Well one of my goals at the conference was to collect freebies (promotional prizes offered by the record labels at these meetings) and bring them back to my radio station to give away on the air. I got the scoop that I should attend a particular radio industry breakfast because “that’s where all the good prizes are.”

I woke up bleary-eyed after a late night concert and went through the breakfast buffet line. I was handed a large, black leather duffel bag filled with CDs and prizes and was content to eat my muffin and leave. I heard beautiful three-part harmony coming from the dining room, so I could tell I was noticeably late. As I was still deciding whether or not to leave, I was swiftly escorted into the room and thought it would be best to sit down. I clapped for the group (sister brother trio “The Martins”) as they left the stage and another group of three guys came up to sing praise choruses. There were screens on either side of the room with the lyrics and beautiful scenery to go along with the songs, but the music was unimpressive.

It wasn’t until the partially gray-haired guy with a goatee and guitar opened his mouth and began singing, “Above all powers… Above all kings…” that it hit me. My heart began to race. This was Paul Baloche, the guy who wrote this song leading worship right here and I was in his presence! If that was Paul Baloche, then who were these other guys? One by one they each had their turn at a solo. The fella with the strong accent (Worship Leader Robin Mark from Belfast) led out “Shout to the North and South… Sing to the East and the West… Jesus is Savior to all. He is Lord of Heaven and Earth!” Tim Hughes from England led, “Here I am to worship. Here I am to bow down. Here I am to say that you’re my God…” Two of the three had come for this event from other parts of the world!! I hadn’t known what they looked like… three music greats were standing in front of me and I was unaware.

Knowing the author brings value to anything, whether it’s a song, a piece of art, or the world around us. I know it’s easy for me to numbly go through the day without stopping to enjoy the sound of the birds in the background or the new flowers I got for Mother’s Day. Life brings all of us the most joy when we really know the Famous One who created it all!

Behind the Scenes with BarlowGirl

(Left to Right: Alyssa Barlow, Myself, Lauren Barlow, and Becca Barlow from BarlowGirl. Note how Becca has a Bible in her hand.)

One of my highlights of the His Radio Music Boat Cruise was meeting artists and finding out what they are like when the spotlight is not on them. I appreciated observing the gals from BarlowGirl (as I mentioned earlier in the week) because they are so stylish and yet always modest in their dress- consistent with their platform.

I emceed the BarlowGirl concert on Thursday evening which was the final concert on the ship. This picture was taken after the concert. I felt so privileged to get a behind the scenes look into the faith of these very talented young women.

As the final song ended the girls were wisked to their dressing room in the humid bowels of the ship. The seas were as rough as they'd been the whole trip and Alyssa said it was one of the most difficult concerts she'd ever played. (The place was really rocking- but not necessarily in a good way!) All they wanted to do was go up on deck and get some fresh air. They were on their way when a family of four walked in the door. A post-show meet-and-greet had been scheduled with an African American child (probably 6 or 7) who had severe Diabetes. In fact he had missed his dialysis to be on the cruise.

Even though Alyssa, Becca and Lauren were sweating and decidedly uncomfortable the gals did more than take just a picture. They immediately recognized they had met this family earlier on the ship and picked up on the conversation they'd had previously. They went out of their way to make each family member feel special, including the brother who did not have the severe health problems. Before they said good-bye Lauren, Alyssa and Becca grabbed the hands of every person in the room and each prayed earnestly for the little guy's healing- either instantaneous or through a kidney transplant. (He had apparently already had one transplant but looks to be in need of another.) It was probably 20 minutes before the gals had the chance to go up on deck but their Christ-like attitude was such a breath of fresh air for me.

Day #4 His Radio Music Boat Cruise

They say all good things come to an end and I feel a bittersweet sensation at the thought this cruise is nearly over. Crew members have verbalized how this group has been different and more "decent" than many organizations that have taken over the entire boat. The casino has been largely empty and the purveyors of tropical drinks have learned to say "alcohol and no alcohol" to drum up more business. This has been a wonderful group of people with a great witness.

Today has been a more reflective day and I have so enjoyed hearing the hearts of the artists and performers that are here with us on the cruise. Today is the National Day of Prayer and many of the activities have focused on teaching and worship.

Jason McLeod (“Brock” the death crawl guy from “Facing the Giants”) shared his testimony and heart for ministry. He is one of those guys who has always been a “good kid” and even a leader in the youth group. He also loves football. Jason really did play football for four years in high school and went to college on a football scholarship. Interestingly enough he has left college because he feels the Lord wants him to go into ministry. (Right now “ministry” also includes a day job at a chicken farm!) He’s a really sweet guy and I wish the best for him.

One of the highlights of this week would have to be the artist question and answer session after lunch with Mercy Me, Audio Adrenaline, Pillar, and Fee. These guys are all “sharp” Godly men. If you think of it, be in prayer for the guys from heavy bands like Pillar and POD that have a lot of temptations that other Christian bands may not have to face openly. If it all works out I’m hoping to post a brief video of the Q&A (with my question) on the blog when we back on dry land..

Tonight it’s Mercy Me and Barlow Girl… I’d appreciate your prayers for a safe trip home. I miss you all and can’t wait to share more about how God has challenged me during this great week. If you are interested in going on the next His Radio Music Boat Cruise, it is November 8-12 and it will have three stops Nassau, CocoCay AND Key West. I also just discovered that Third Day will be on that cruise. I’d do this trip again in a heartbeat!! Check it out online at www.musicboatonline.com.

Day #3 His Radio Music Boat Cruise

This update is coming a day late because “yesterday” actually ended “today.” We indulged in the Midnight Buffet and came back too sleepy to drag out the computer. Mexican at midnight- one of these days I’m sure I’ll have to say I’m too old for this.

Anyway, yesterday was absolutely incredible. We spent the day docked in Nassau. After the morning breakfast buffet we visited shops around Nassau. It was great to meet “Greg” one of the local artisans who is a Christian and said he’d like to listen to His Radio online!

In the afternoon we visited the gargantuan Atlantis Hotel. For $6/roundtrip on a shuttle boat we were able to explore the hotel which includes an amazing multi-wall aquarium with sharks, manta rays and even scuba divers. (Really! The guests can scuba dive into this aquarium!)

In the evening we enjoyed comedy with 3-2-1 Improv and concerts with Toby Mac and Matthew West. 3-2-1 Improv was incredible. I must say that even though we got to bed at about 1:00 a.m. I was thinking about the jokes and laughing out loud when I should have been sleeping. (There is something about the idea of children playing on a giant playground-sized hard shell taco that gets my funny bone!)

Toby Mac and Diverse City always impress me because of their dancing, rapping and on-stage antics. There is no doubt that they put everything they have into a performance. It also makes perfect sense why Toby stays so young and trim… he has to in order to do these shows. I loved our close seats. In these small auditoriums there isn’t a bad seat in the house!

Matthew West was inspiring. He played all the radio hits: “Only Grace”, “Next Thing You Know”, “I Love You More”, and the current #1 song in the country “The Motions.” He wrapped up his concert with “The Cruise Song” about why food is his favorite part of going on a cruise. Matthew said he hoped to finish up a bit early so he could beat the crowd to the Midnight Buffet. I’m not sure if he beat the crowd, but I did find him there and was able to tell him how his song “The Motions” had inspired me to sign up for a conference for Christian women who are authors and speakers. It was such a joy to talk with him and meet his family. Great music, real people, and incredible food. ..It’s been a great day!

Day #2 of His Radio Music Boat Cruise

Beautiful- that's the word for today! Beautiful sky, sand and ocean. We had a great day out at Royal Caribbean’s private island Coco Cay. (The picture above is of one of the water inflatibles on the island.) The sand was thick, soft, and white. Temperatures in the mid-80s with just the right amount of breeze. There was a wonderful spread of food on the island-including barbeque ribs and chicken. Although I had SPF 50 sunscreen I missed a few spots- know what I mean! I’m paying for it a bit tonight. David Crowder is playing in the background as I write. I really enjoyed seeing Matthew West juggle two plates and his toddler daughter at breakfast this morning. That’s the true life of a parent! Also it was refreshing to see how modestly the modesty- advocates- Barlow Girl dressed on the beach. These gals are for real!

Right now I am: Sitting next to a late night ice cream and pizza buffet and getting ready to sleep. They just put fancy embossed chocolates that say “Music Boat Cruise” in our room. I feel so spoiled!

Day #1 of His Radio Music Boat Cruise

Hey Everybody!!

It has been a wonderful day of incredible food, fun and music! Andy and I boarded the boat at lunchtime. We met up with Rob and Amy Dempsey almost immediately and were able to make arrangements to sit together at meals. I saw the gals from Barlow Girl at the check-in desk and Mark Stuart (Audio A) walked by while Andy and played ping pong. I’m looking forward to improving my ping pong skills and to tonight’s concerts. I’ll be emceeing the Katina’s concert at 11:00. Looks like a fun and late night!

Right now I am:
Eating soft-serve ice cream, reading a book by Florence Littauer, and getting ready for a mean game of Scrabble.

Sacred Friendships of Women

I have several wonderful "girlfriends" I love to spend time with. Lisa is my special friend to discuss deeply personal issues and spiritual truths. I love talking about the "Old Days" with Alice and "Kids, Remodeling and the Talk of the Day" with Dawn. My Mothers of Preschoolers group "The Bumper Car Beauties" (Don't Ask!) is a precious group of ladies I can cry with and bare my soul. I wouldn't trade any of these women for the world. There is something precious about having women friends you can feel completely comfortable with. Go to dinner or out to a movie with- without it being considered...How do I say this...You know, WEIRD.

I look at Christian men (in general) and see how this closeness is lacking. Men for the most part don't hug, don't go out in pairs, partially because of how it might be interpreted. Men often talk about how they'd like to have more friends. At noontime you're just as likely as not to see men sitting alone at a restaurant. Isolation.

Just recently CNN.com posted an article, "Why Women Are Leaving Men for Other Women" The story went onto say, "There's a new kind of sisterly love in the air..." The headlines are bombarding us with stories of celebrities and their new "loves." From Ellen to Lindsay, movies to chart-topping songs, women are being encouraged to try a new kind of lifestyle. What grieves me about this is that by pushing the "normalcy" of that sort of female relationship, true honest-to-goodness-hug-and-cry friendships suffer. They seem tainted. A loss of innocence.

I recently read the passage in 2 Samuel about the death of Jonathan, King David's best friend. David said, "I grieve for you, Jonathan my brother; you were very dear to me. Your love for me was wonderful, more wonderful than that of women." (2 Samuel 1:26.) Some scholars have concluded from that passage that David and Jonathan had some sort of "beyond friendship" relationship. I have to admit myself that I was taken back when I read that verse myself. But maybe that's the problem. Guys shouldn't have to feel the need to be stoic and handshake-only. It is the degradation of our society's morals that has confined men to relate to one another in only two areas: business and sports. That's a sad commentary.

Women have historically had the freedom to be hands-on with one another. We've been close, with no questions asked. It would be great loss to our society if women stopped sharing and hugging. I'd never really thought about it before but a Biblical stand for traditional marriage is also a stand for the sacredness of true friendship. I just love my Godly girlfriends- and that's perfectly okay.

Eating Out On the Cheap...

Our family made some "recession era" changes to our eating out about a year ago when we took the "Financial Peace University" course offered at our church. It was eye-opening experience for us to discover how much money we were spending on food of all types- groceries and eating out.

To be very honest we have become a fast food family, by necessity. At least that has been the case until the last couple of weeks!

Two weeks ago I learned about a popular sit-down place with a club I could join. (I can't mention its name, but it does have something to do with a favorite day of the week!) Anyway, as a new member of their "club" I received a coupon for a free appetizer and a "Buy One Entree, Get One for a $1." Crazy enough, the night we brought our coupons it was also Kids' Night. The waiter not only took BOTH our coupons but ALSO allowed our kids to have the free Kids Meals. Basic story: full price for one entree, one for a $1, an appetizer and two meals free!!

Another shocker was a visit on Saturday after the Fayetteville Dogwood Festival to a popular burger and shake place (again, use your imagination here.) I had a $2 off coupon for my meal and it was Kids Night. We had great food and my extra huge meal came with a shake and two extra sides that really helped fill up the family. Total cost: $14 for a family of 4!

So have you been working the system? What great food deals have you found at area restaurants? I'd love to hear your stories!

And The Dove Goes To...

The Biggest Night in Gospel Music... Full of Surprises!


The 40th Annual Gospel Music Association Dove Awards were presented last night at the Grand Ole Opry in Nashville, TN, honoring the year's brightest and best during the LIVE, exclusive broadcast on Gospel Music Channel. For the first time in the GMA's 40 year history, music fans were given the opportunity to vote in two of the 43 award categories, "Artist of the Year" and "New Artist of the Year."

(I previously wrote a blog with my predictions about who would win Dove Awards and I have marked in red those that were correct predictions... Gee, it's obvious there's no "crystal ball" here! :-)

Here's a partial list of 2009 Dove Award winners:

Artist of the Year: Steven Curtis Chapman (chosen by music fans)

New Artist of the Year: Tenth Avenue North

Song of the Year: "Give Me Your Eyes" Brandon Heath, Jason Ingram

Male Vocalist of the Year: Brandon Heath

Female Vocalist of the Year: Natalie Grant

Group of the Year: Casting Crowns

New Artist of the Year: Tenth Avenue North (chosen by music fans)

For a complete list of this year's winners, go to www.doveawards.com/doveawards.

Dollar Store Steals: Share Your Bargain Stories!

Stretching the dollar- go to the dollar store! According to Consumer Reports Money Adviser Anthony Giorgianni these items are safe, good deals from dollar stores across the country: paper products, shampoos, kitchen utensils, spices, and household cleaners. Items to avoid: anything electronic, things that could contain lead (some toys, lunchboxes), batteries, and toothpaste.

This week I went to my favorite dollar store and found: 3 pairs of socks for a dollar, flip flops, and a toy. My favorite dollar store find: filled goodie bags for my daughter's birthday party- all for $5.

So what's been your dollar store dream deal? Share your story!

Brittney's Picks for 2009 Dove Awards!

2009 GMA Dove Award Nominees

SONG OF THE YEAR song title; writer; publisher (Dove Award given to the songwriter and publisher)

“Amazing Grace (My Chains Are Gone)”; Chris Tomlin, Louie Giglio, Traditional; sixsteps music (ASCAP), worshiptogether.com Songs (ASCAP)

“Cinderella”; Steven Curtis Chapman; Sparrow Songs (BMI)

“Empty Me”; Chris Sligh, Clint Lagerberg, Tony Wood; Foolish Tool Music (ASCAP), Word Music LLC (ASCAP), Kindacrazy Music (BMI), Row J Seat 9 Songs (ASCAP), New Spring Publishing (ASCAP), Bridge Building Music (BMI)

“Give Me Your Eyes”; Brandon Heath, Jason Ingram; Sitka 6 Music (ASCAP), Peertunes Ltd. (SESAC), Grange Hill Music (SESAC), Windsor Way (SESAC)

“I Will Not Be Moved”; Natalie Grant; Nat in the Hat (ASCAP)

“I’m Letting Go”; Francesca Battistelli, Tony Wood, Ian Eskelin; Designer Music (SESAC), Word Music LLC (ASCAP), Honest & Popular Songs (SESAC), Row J Seat 9 Songs (ASCAP), New Spring Publishing Inc. (ASCAP)

“Mighty to Save”; Ben Fielding, Joel Houston; Integrity’s Hosanna! Music (ASCAP)

“Never Going Back to OK”; Matt Fuqua, Josh Havens, Brad Wigg, Dan Muckala; Smells Like Music (ASCAP), Screaming Mimes Music (ASCAP)

“Reason Enough”; Ernie Haase, Wayne Haun, Joel Lindsey; Bridge Building Music (BMI),
Psalmsinger Music (BMI), Ernie Sig Sound Music (BMI), Hefton Hill Music (BMI)

“You Reign”; Bart Millard, Barry Graul, Steven Curtis Chapman; Simpleville Music (ASCAP), Wet As A Fish Music (ASCAP), Sparrow Songs (BMI)

This is a tough choice. I'm torn between three songs that really got people's attention: "I Will Not Be Moved", "Give Me Your Eyes" and "I'm Letting Go." Natalie's song is the soccer mom anthem that I love to belt out whenever I know I won't completely embarrass myself. Francesca's song rocks because it's style is unique and she has such a great, strong voice. Since she's new, I'm going to save my pick for "New Artist of the Year." "Give Me Your Eyes" thought-provoking, timely, and it sticks in your head and can't get it out. My pick for "Song of the Year!"


ARTIST OF THE YEAR
Casting Crowns
Steven Curtis Chapman
Fireflight
Marvin Sapp
Third Day
tobyMac
Chris Tomlin

Because of Steven Curtis Chapman's endurance and testimony through the death of his daughter Maria I think this award will be given as a tribute to him. Based solely on the "artist," that's a tie between Casting Crowns and Third Day in my book.

NEW ARTIST OF THE YEAR
Addison Road
Francesca Battistelli
Fee
Jonathan Nelson
Remedy Drive
Chris Sligh
Tenth Avenue North

Hands down it's got to be Francesca! She has a unique sound that's completely unlike any female artist on the radio. She grew up on jazz and it's apparent in her music. Two songs on the charts and she's a real winner. I'm a big fan of the underdog- so my underdog favorite is Chris Sligh. If Susan Boyle can do it- he can too! What a great voice he has. I love the song, "Empty Me."


MALE VOCALIST OF THE YEAR
Jeremy Camp
Jon Foreman
Ernie Haase
Brandon Heath
David Phelps
Marvin Sapp
Chris Tomlin

Are we talking best voice? David Phelps. Are we talking most popular? Chris Tomlin. So I'm going out on a limb with Jeremy Camp for a completely illogical reason- I like his style of voice, his fan approachability through his website, and his music best.


FEMALE VOCALIST OF THE YEAR
Francesca Battistelli
Brooke Fraser
Karen Peck Gooch
Natalie Grant
Mandisa
Sandi Patty
Laura Story

Can I just say I'm sooo glad to see Sandi Patty back on this list- It's been a long time. No one can deny she has a great voice, kind of like David Phelps in the Male Vocalist of the Year category. I'm going to give Brooke and Francesca a couple of years. Tired of Natalie Grant. So my pick is Mandisa. Great voice, she picks music she can sing well and hangs with cool people like tobyMac. Can't go wrong!

GROUP OF THE YEAR
Casting Crowns
David Crowder*Band
Ernie Haase & Signature Sound
Mary Mary
MercyMe
Skillet
Third Day

Two new radio singles and the cover of Billboard Magazine... not a bad year for Third Day. Love it! My personal favorite of the groups listed is Casting Crowns, but since their album "The Altar and the Door" came out back in 2007 I'm thinking Third Day has this one wrapped up. If this were an award for "Best In-Your-Face, Sin-Confronting, Marriage-Saving Band" (Fireproof's "Slow Fade") the award would definitely go to deep thinkers Casting Crowns.


Hope you enjoyed my picks and predictions. I'd love to find out yours. Feel free to leave your comments. Enjoy your weekend and thanks for listening to the "Drive Home!" By the way, don't forget to vote for "Artist of the Year" and "New Artist of the Year" at http://www.doveawards.com/doveawards/.